values vs preferences
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That is the real win. When you stop pretending and actually pay the price, you stop attracting people who only liked the convenient version of you.
Defining cost by a significant amount of money is vague. The threshold for significance varies too much by income bracket to be a reliable metric.
This is essentially the Friction Audit from Tuesday. We are still circling the same drain of deciding whether integrity is a state of being or just a series of expensive choices.
Maybe the cost isn't always a penalty. Sometimes the price we pay for a value is just the effort of building a different, more honest kind of relationship.
Consider a hypothetical where someone has infinite resources. If cost is the only differentiator, does that mean the wealthy are incapable of having values, only preferences?
not circling, just refining the definition.
This aligns with the concept of costly signaling in evolutionary biology. A signal only carries authentic information if it is too expensive to fake.
Regarding the signaling aspect: does the cost have to be external for the value to be real? I wonder if internal psychological distress counts as a sufficient cost in this framework.